I never promised you a nice bag: Memoir of life through events – those you are planning and those who do notis the new book by Jennifer Gilbert. Her story is one of the personal and professional triumphs, worth reading …
Jennifer Gilbert was raised in the wealthy Westchester County, New York. Her father worked in the field of import, and his mother often accompanied him during international trips. Playing grass and lacrosse hockey at school, a boat trip from Nantonet and skiing in Vermont were normal activities.
At the end of May 1991 Gilbert went to the subway for the first time; went to New York to visit a friend. Without knowing his surroundings, a man followed her from the subway to the door of his friend's apartment. Surrealistically, he repeatedly pierced her with a screwdriver while praying for his girlfriend's help.
Left to die, at 22, Gilbert lost his innocence and direction in his life. Initially, after the attack, she requested a walker while treating over 40 stitches to different parts of her body.
Police interviews, suspects, protection from her parents, and Boston escape all signaled three months later that it was time to overcome their trials or the perpetrator to win. "You can not move forward if you look in the rear-view mirror," he said, for a whole mantra.
Gilbert defiantly traveled through New York daily through the subway, pursuing a career in event planning. Her first job was mostly commissions; and takes the opportunity to resume his entrepreneurial talents that he develops in his youth. At high school, while her parents traveled, she thoroughly organized home parties, requiring classmates to attend. Her profits allow her to pay for her prom and associated costs.
Entrepreneurship called for Gilbert and she started her own event planning business. Immersed in the construction of her company in Manhattan, she unloaded extraordinary, lucrative customers; which helped her move away from the attack. She has become what she calls a "plus plus" personality.
Early business practices found Gilbert as a benevolent dictator and less than gratitude to her female staff. Over time, she realizes how important it is to complement her employees with well-done jobs. She has also learned that some customers, no matter how hard you try, will never be satisfied: "Give away everything but your soul," she says. "Identify the" soul "of your business (which most of the time is something that makes you extremely happy) and hire everyone else to do the rest."
For years, Gilbert has designed scenic weddings. She often stood aside, enjoying the bliss of couples, but never personally experienced the same kind of happiness. Slowly and cautiously, she began to meet after her trial, but she was lucky in love.
She met Bennett at Hamptons and they became best friends, still meet with other people. He loved her; and for six years he waited patiently and watched Gilbert continue to hesitate romantically. She was surprised by her revelation; and he invested two more years, convincing her in their mutual fate, sending love letters always signing: "I love you millions, billions, trillions." "I finally realized that love is not for me because I'm trying to be perfect for someone else, but for an understanding that feels perfect for me," she says.
The couple already have three children, including twin boys, but Gilbert's path to pregnancy is turbulent and has several spontaneous abortions (including a six-month-old boy).
Gray, one of Gilbert's twin sons, developed alopecia versus his first birthday. It is a disorder of the immune system that causes hair loss, which may be partial or complete. About Gray is totally. Gilbert describes her metamorphosis from the feeling of being angry at Gray's condition until her reception. Gray himself is a healthy, irritable child, comfortable in his own skin.
Gilbert had almost collapsed, stood in front of her striker in court three years after her attack to bring justice; and suffered financial losses in business after September 11, along with other challenges. She knows that "everyone has something." This may be sickness, poverty, divorce or some other disaster. She says, "You can not control what can happen to you in this life, but you can control what you want to be after it happens."
Read Gilbert's memoirs and get your own bag for fun; abounds in stories to enrich personally and professionally.
Jennifer Gilbert supports the Women for Women organization, working in the war-ravaged countries – Rwanda, Afghanistan, Congo and others. It offers training for local women and support when starting their own business. Visit the site at: http://www.womenforwomen.org.